Method of willpower

Society has always told us that to get rid of Smoking very difficult, even almost impossible . And in publications, which are intended to help you quit Smoking and tell you how to do it, from the first page to warn readers that quitting Smoking is very, very difficult. But in actual fact it's simple. It is not difficult, and you can verify this for yourself. Of course, now you doubt my words, but trust me, it's much easier than you think.

Record

If you want to put the record in the long jump, it will be very difficult to achieve, and only after many years of training you may achieve a result, and that is a big question. The main obstacles are our thoughts. Because in my head we think that you will never be able to do, and we do not get in the end to do it. But when some now-famous athlete will overcome this level in the sport when he beat that record, all doubts about the unreality of this goal then it's gone.

The harm from Smoking

But the hardest part of our issue is just more smoke. But it's the only thing you need to do. And that's all. But you won't do for you, it seems torture, but to smoke you no one no longer makes. Now you bring yourself harm. Smoking is not such a need as food and water. You don't need it, in order to survive. Then why, I'm sorry, you say that you are so difficult to quit Smoking? But in fact difficulties arise because smokers use the method of willpower. A method of willpower suggests that you need something to renounce, to deprive yourself of something. And we can consider it in more detail.

Unwillingness to be dependent

We never wanted to resign ourselves to suffering when we started Smoking, we didn't want to be dependent. We just tried, tried himself, and taste of those first cigarettes was very unpleasant for us, so we didn't even consider to Smoking all his life. The first cigarette we smoked to the end with difficulty, and only when we were surrounded by smokers. And then we already have not noticed, how began to smoke not only when we wanted to, but every day, just like that.

Dependence on nicotine

And now we just can't live without cigarettes. We believe that cigarettes make our lives brighter, nicer, more fun. And when we're celebrating something with friends or have lunch, have dinner, thanks to the cigarettes, these activities become much more enjoyable than without them. And no one even thinks about the fact that cigarettes have the same taste during and after a dinner, and during parties, dinners and other events. And in actual fact cigarettenever change your taste. And don't help to make the meal more enjoyable. And not even remove any stress. And all of these feelings – is our delusion, if we can get some great pleasure from this taste of cigarettes, although in fact from such a terrible taste is simply impossible to have fun. It will be years before we can realize that we're just dependent, and not smoke just because we get some pleasure. People who smoke, always think you can quit any time I want. But this confidence runs with the first attempt to quit Smoking. And only now, when we first tried and we failed, then we know that the dependence on cigarettes, which can't get rid of them. And that's a serious problem.

Our youth

And the time in quitting Smoking usually comes at the very beginning, we could be still very young. For example, young people met each other and wanted to live together, and for that you need to cut spending on completely unnecessary things. Smoking is a waste of unimaginable amounts of money. And so the young man or woman trying to get rid of their addiction. Or another example. The boy was active in sports, but after he began Smoking, I realized that he had shortness of breath, and now the sporting achievements that were not a limit, now become inaccessible. And then he decides to quit, pull up your physical success.

The problem in life

In any case, the first attempt to quit Smoking always comes to us when on the horizon there are some problems financially or health problems. And we want to quit, but the little nicotine monster that lives inside of us, leaves us alone, constantly reminds himself. And we are not allowed to smoke, although very desirable, and then the monster begins to suffer even more. As a result, for man there comes a time of stress, just the same, because of the desire to smoke but cigarettes can't help us to get rid of this stress, as we try to get rid of this addiction. And then the result of all these attempts is the thoughts that you can pick a different time to get rid of Smoking, or better to just reduce the number of cigarettes, and it may be wise to wait until life will improve and will not be such a nervous time and condition.

A vicious circle

But when the stress goes away, the smoker decides not to wait and now he have not need to quit Smoking. And over time life becomes less stressful, sheon the contrary, becomes even more complicated. In this case, we simply find ourselves in a vicious circle. When we leave the house parents to create a family, get a job or change position, we begin even more nervous, and life is so tense, as if still trying to quit Smoking, then stress can not be avoided. And cigarettes, which, we think, is able to deliver us from this stress does not kill, but rather create. The smoker eventually starts to consume cigarettes more and more, and his incorrect thoughts about their addiction only rooted in the consciousness.

In fact, those thoughts that life is becoming more and more nervous and tense, is not true. And Smoking just the same and contributes to it. But we talk more about this in the following chapters.

Miracle

Since, as we unsuccessfully tried to quit Smoking first, for the second time and many other attempts, we begin to dream that some day we will Wake up and just don't want to smoke. These dreams strengthened in our minds even stronger after we hear some stories of other people who used to smoke. They tell us that once fell ill and came down, and after this incident, I understood that I will not be Smoking, because health is more important. And that is since they do not smoke at all. But all these stories are just stories and lies. All this is not so easy, and I have checked these facts, they were not as simple as it may seem at first.

Tales

Typically, these smokers who just "miraculously"got rid of Smoking, they tell us long time and trained myself to no longer smoke and any disease was the only cause and help in their minds. Believe me that all those stories about sudden healing and deliverance from Smoking – no more than fairy tales. And I am convinced of this by example. I smoked for over thirty years and every day hoping that someday it will come to me disease, such after which I never want to smoke. But these wonderful days never come, and whenever I started to chop at the chest, I dreamed that those feelings quickly passed, because I couldn't smoke.

Shock ex-smokers

As a rule, those people who quit Smoking, just experienced a certain shock or fright. Maybe someone close to you died of a disease that is caused by Smoking, and maybe these people had to endure any shock. Now they just say they so easily can get rid of dependence. But then, maybe you've had enough to waste time on foolish dreams that never will come true without your efforts, and whether it is time to take action?

Method of willpower

Now let's try to understandwhy to quit Smoking by force of will so difficult.

We have always lived as if you can hide your head in the sand and just think that tomorrow is another day, which means that all the things that we could do today can be done tomorrow. Sometimes there are situations, after which we understand that it really is time to quit. This can be a situation when you don't have enough money or when you began health problems. And maybe, happened to choking, and you understand that Smoking is not good moments, and even dangerous. But whatever may happen to us, that moment we realize that it's time to quit Smoking, it is time to liberate your body of this poison. And now we begin to weigh the positive and negative aspects associated with Smoking. And then come to a single opinion: it's time to quit.

For and against

Try to sit down and think carefully and then write all the"pros"and"cons"of life without Smoking. And you will see that the positive aspects much more than the negative.

And despite the fact that every smoker knows that it would be a lot better if he quit Smoking, but nevertheless he continues to believe that quitting Smoking means to deprive yourself of something very good. And despite the fact that it is just a wrong thought in the mind of a smoker, this is a very serious problem for those who want to quit Smoking. And all smokers truly believe in the misconception that cigarettes bring pleasure to them and help to live better.

Before you decide to smoke, society has imposed on you how difficult it will be to quit Smoking, then you will impose yourself of these thoughts, constantly thinking on the subject, and realizing that your life without cigarettes will really turn into a nightmare. And all this time you spend thinking about how difficult it is to quit Smoking.

One cigarette

Let's think about a man who heard a thousand times about these smokers who already quit, but still dream about is to smoke at least one cigarette. And also about those who have quit Smoking, but now is constantly in a sad state, thinking about the fact that I had deprived myself of something important. Many of those who have ever quit Smoking, then life suffer from this. He also heard about those who got rid of Smoking, could hold out for a few years and then relapsed, I only smoked one cigarette, and all his efforts went to hell, now he smokes constantly and is very suffers. Maybe this man had heard so much about other unfortunate destinies, even he ever got into such a situation. We all know a lot of stories about how people smoke constantly and for a long time, theirzdorove ugasaet prosto na glazah, no pri etom eto ih sovsem ne ostanavlivaet, i oni prodolzhaut kurit.

neschastnaya sudba

i teper, posle stolkogo uslyshannogo, etot chelovek vmesto togo, chtoby radovatsya, chto teper on bolshe ne kurit i uzhe ne zavisim ot kakih-to sigaret, on nachinaet oplakivat etot fakt i svou neschastnuu sudbu. etot chelovek uveren v tom, chto kogda on tolko nachal kurit, nikotin pronik v ego organizm, i teper uzhe nikogda ot nego ne izbavitsya. a nekotorye kurilshiki, pered tem kak perestat kurit, nachinaut opravdyvatsya pered svoimi znakomymi, nachinaut govorit, chto oni brosaut, i poetomu teper blizkim i znakomym nuzhno nekotoroe vremya podozhdat, potomu chto etot chelovek nekotoroe vremya budet prosto nevynosim i v uzhasnom nastroenii. no takie popytki iznachalno obrecheny na proval.

ischeznovenie pervonachalnyh prichin

my mozhem predpolozhit, chto kurilshik perestaet kurit, i neskolko dnej emu udaetsya proderzhatsya. on ne tratit dengi na sigarety, i summa ego deneg uvelichivaetsya. a zdorove uluchshaetsya, poskolku legkie avtomaticheski otchishautsya. i poetomu sejchas te prichiny, po kotorym on v dejstvitelnosti hotel brosit kurit, prosto ischezaut iz ego soznaniya, on zabyvaet o nih. a eto sostoyanie mozhno sravnit s tem, kak ludi, kotorye proezzhaut mimo avtokatastrofy na svoej mashine, perekreshivautsya, molyatsya, boyatsya, dazhe edut medlennee, no vse ravno prodolzhaut potom ezdit takzhe neostorozhno, kak i ezdili, zabyvaya ob etoj avarii.

malenkoe nikotinovoe chudovishe

poetomu kogda vy zabudete o svoih predydushih problemah, vy snova nachnete kurit. no kogda vy zhivete bez sigaret, to malenkoe nikotinovoe chudovishe, zhivushee v vas, postoyanno napominaet vam o sebe. eto oshushenie ne imeet nichego obshego s temi oshusheniyami, kogda vy, k primeru, prostyli. kogda vy boleete, vy prodolzhaete rabotat, i u vas net nikakoj depressii, perezhivanij, ili chego-to takogo. no kogda vy ne kurite, to vpadaete v depressiu, vas glozhet oshushenie togo, chto vy chego-to lisheny. vy hotite tolko odnogo - sigarety. i bolshe vas nichto drugoe ne interesuet. vy dazhe i ne ponimaete, pochemu vy tak hotite kurit. no ochen hotite, i vy ne v silah protivostoyat etomu chuvstvu. eshe nedavno vy perechislyali massu prichin, po kotorym vy ne hoteli bolshe kurit, no segodnya iz-za nazojlivogo malenkogo chudovisha vnutri vas vy uzhe i ne pomnite eti prichiny. i teper u vas tolko odna cel: najti opravdanie tomu, pochemu vy snova stanete kurit. i vas poseshaut takie mysli:

vashi mysli

zhizn proletaet mimo nas nezametno, a ya trachu ee na to, chtoby ispytyvat takie muki. no ved eta samaya zhizn mozhet oborvatsya v luboj moment, ya mogu popast v avariu, ili eshe v kakuu-nibud situaciu, gde moya zhizn oborvetsya v odnu sekundu.And moreover, I later decided to quit Smoking. But a disease like cancer develops because of what anyone, even those who never smoked at all. So why do I torture myself so. I'll wait for a better time, and now again smoke.

Due to the fact that I have a few days do not smoke, I acquired a terrible mood, I have becomes unbearable character, I can't concentrate on anything. All my loved ones turn away from me. So, just for the sake of their loved ones, I need another smoke. And I, an inveterate smoker, this can not be that I can be happy without cigarettes.

Crazy smokers

In this case, it is just a smoker breaks down. He lights the cigarette, and his madness is doubled. Yes, of course, when the smoker after a long abstinence takes a cigarette in his mouth, he is relieved, because now his little monster is granted his wish and not be so frantic. But on the other hand, this man lived without cigarettes for several days, and now he's Smoking again and realizes that he lacks the will power to quit Smoking. But in fact, he neither lacks strength of will, he just needs to change his attitude to this situation. Why try to get rid of this problem – the problem of Smoking, but suffer just the same because of my failure?

The first part of the abstinence

As a rule, this part of its abstinence of the smoker and begins to give up. His schizophrenia becomes a terrifying character. On the one hand, he was Smoking, he wanted to get rid of this terrible habit, for a long time he suffered, but I wanted to smoke, And here he re-lights his first cigarette, and there comes a sense of relief and satisfaction. Now there's no more of that terrible craving for cigarettes and agony that they can't smoke. But, on the other hand, this poor man so long to smoke, he has already been held, so many things experienced during this time, and now his body even does not take this poison – nicotine. And the taste of cigarettes disgusting to him, and he doesn't even understand why, then, in fact he started Smoking again if it doesn't even taste any pleasant sensations, but only disgust.

Thoughts of the unfortunate smoker

Therefore, the poor smoker just begins to believe that he has no willpower and he's a wuss who can't even help myself. But the only point is that in order to avoid such situations, you just have to take a fresh look at this story.

Should you smoke and get something that requires your body – that is, the nicotine that enters your body with a cigarette. But at the same time and suffer from unpleasant feelings. So why, then, say, kill yourzdorove, no pri etom ne poluchat absolutno nichego horoshego ot etoj situacii?

zhizn kuryashego

pojmite, zhizn nekuryashego cheloveka namnogo priyatnee, chem zhizn kuryashego. a nekotorye kurilshiki (i ya ochen dlitelnuu chast svoej zhizni byl takim zhe) schitaut, chto esli otvykanie ot kureniya nastolko muchitelno, to zachem togda voobshe muchitsya, perebaryvat sebya i izbavlyatsya ot zavisimosti, esli mozhno prosto zhit s etim i byt schastlivym. nu i pust kurenie otnimaet chast vashej zhizni. glavnoe ved, chto ne budet nikakih muchenij ot otvykaniya, nikakih stradanij bez sigaret. i pust zhizn budet korotkoj, no zato priyatnoj.

zhizn nekuryashego

poverte, kak ya uzhe govoril, zhizn nekuryashego cheloveka namnogo priyatnee, chem zhizn kuryashego.

ya i sam v eto ne veril. i tak by i ostavalsya kuryashim, esli by ne ponyal, chto nikakih na samom dele stradanij pri izbavlenii ot kureniya net. eto prosto nashi fantazii.

i vse tak nazyvaemye stradaniya kurilshika v period otvykaniya ni kapli ne pohozhi na te stradaniya, kotorye ispytyvaut, k primeru, narkomany, zavisyashie ot geroina. poskolku kurilshik ne ispytyvaet fizicheskih stradanij. vse perezhivaniya proishodyat u nego v golove. i ne bolee togo.

no, k sozhaleniu, imenno eti perezhivaniya, voznikaushie v nashej golove, i mogut posluzhit tolchkom k realnym stradaniyam.

prichiny vnutri nas

my stradaem vnutri sebya po kakoj-libo neponyatnoj prichine, i eti stradaniya prinosyat nam tolko neuverennost i somneniya. tak kak kogda kuryashij chelovek brosaet kurit, on uzhe zaranee gotovit sebya k tomu, chto budet stradat i muchitsya, v rezultate on perezhivaet ogromnyj stress, tak kak vse eti perezhivaniya prinosyat emu lish chuvstvo obdelennosti i lisheniya chego-to vazhnogo.

predstavte, vy vykurivaete svou poslednuu sigaretu, i pered etim vy uzhe dali sebe slovo, chto eto byla vasha poslednyaya sigareta i povtora uzhe nikogda ne posleduet. vy ochen dolgo i serezno gotovili sebya k etomu momentu, i k etoj situacii, i vot, kogda vy dokurivaete svou poslednuu sigaretu, posle nee vam srazu zhe hochetsya sleduushuu, no vy ne mozhete, poskolku poklyalis sebe, chto bolshe uzhe nikogda ne zakurite.

v rezultate vy perezhivaete ogromnyj stress. i eto stanovitsya dlya vas samym vazhnym iz vsego proishodyashego sejchas s vami. vy chuvstvuete sebya podavlennym, ubitym. v rezultate prosto zapuskaete staruu sistemu.

eshe odin faktor

est i eshe odin faktor, kotoryj sushestvenno zatrudnyaet vashe polozhenie, kogda vy hotite brosit kurit. etot fakt est ozhidanie. ozhidanie togo, chto vot-vot chto-to obyazatelno dolzhno sluchitsya. nu, k primeru, vy stavite sebe kakuu-libo cel i pytaetes ee dobitsya, posle togo kak vy ee dobilis, vy perestaete uzhe dumat o nej i, sootvetstvenno, ee dobivatsya.

Let's say you set a goal to obtain the right to drive a car. You are going to do everything to achieve this goal. After that you pass the exam and receive their rights. Now the goal is achieved and you no longer will be to achieve it.

And when you want to quit Smoking, do you think try to survive the first time without cigarettes, even though will and much to suffer, but then you just get used to it and will be able to live without cigarettes. As a result, you live in constant anticipation, waiting that there will come a time when cigarettes will be just you no longer need. But in fact such a time will never happen, because it is not there.

It turns out that now you are just torturing yourself the hassle of waiting for what actually can not be, and just observe, and when to finally give up.

A product of insecurity

And as mentioned above, the same fear generated by uncertainty. Occur suffering, but only mentally, and even though there is no physical pain, but those suffering have a great impact on people. In the end, the thought of a cigarette just begin to haunt you. You become unhappy, insecure, deprived of something. You can not forget about the cigarette, and these thoughts haunt you everywhere.

There are hard times up to several days, or even weeks, when you about anything else and can't think, you constantly have the same thoughts:

"How long I will drag to the cigarette?"

"And follow any of these suffering ever happiness?"

"When I finally want to get up in the morning?"

"Will the food taste for me, ever also enjoyable as you were before?"

"How will I be able to cope with stressful situations in the future?"

"Will I ever enjoy the companionship of friends and communicate with them?"

Happy times

Thus, the smoker is depressed and waiting for ever for him, maybe there will come happy times. But this time, of course, did not come, because the smoker himself is depressed, and a cigarette every day becomes for him more and more important. Now cigarette, it seems, can save him from all the pain and suffering.

But it is actually still something going on until the smoker is suffering and is in a depression. During these two-three weeks your body begins to physically break the habit of nicotine and no longer need it as before. But the flour is so small that the smoker does not even notice them. And besides, he's so busy torment yourself and stay in his depression that he is simply not able to notice these changes.

The initial process

After three weekslife without cigarettes, the smoker believes that the cigarette is done, and to prove to myself the truth of these words, he lights his cigarette. But now the process begins again because the nicotine was re-introduced to your body, and so the process went and the withdrawal of nicotine from the body, and now after you docwrite this cigarette, you will feel how much you want another cigarette. And this desire will embrace you with such force, more powerful than ever before, that your agony will only double if not triple. Now the man himself has again made himself dependent, and all his efforts these last three weeks have meant nothing.

Trap

But, as a rule, the smoker lights already immediately its subsequent cigarette. Because he believes that already got rid of Smoking and their addiction and now could easily live without cigarettes for a long time. It may take a few days, maybe a week before the man lit up another cigarette. Smokers are in such a situation believe that if they got away from addiction and can live without cigarettes, and especially if, after the cigarette they are not addicted to Smoking, so, and another cigarette will be nothing. He lights a cigarette and re-introduces nicotine to your body, and once again confirms that it is ready to enter this trap again.

All smokers who tried to quit Smoking method "will power", saying that the process was very long and painful, and for some just useless.

Inefficient method

Because even after the physical addiction is to nicotine, the smoker still suffering and moping for cigarettes, so this method is inefficient. But if the smoker manages to hold out for long without cigarettes, he realizes that life goes on normally and without cigarettes, and so he can live happily and without this habit, and just starting to live.

This method is very complex and long, and as confirmed by the practice, it is not always effective. And bad examples a lot more than successful.

A life in the Blues

The same people who managed to quit Smoking method "will power" can continue to live in his melancholy and constant depression. They just did not understand that cigarette are actually completely does not affect the condition of our lives, and they still believe that nicotine is capable of some moment of life to make it brighter and nicer.

Some so-called ex-smokers sometimes let yourself go and smoke a cigarette. It is something like a consolation prize or bonuses. Lit his cigarette, they feel it a nasty, disgusting taste. Yeah, but now out of their body the nicotine will begin to be output, and, hence, the quiet voice insidethe person will persistently tell him that he wants another cigarette.

Past time

If a former smoker allows himself to smoke another cigarette, the taste of him as disgusting. Now he thinks that as long as the taste of cigarettes disgusting to him, he can smoke and not be afraid that newly addicted to cigarettes. So, you can quit and after a week, two, three...

But now, unfortunately, it's too late. The time has gone, all the efforts in vain. And people only to fall in the same trap.

Many smokers say that started Smoking just because so do come their friends. But if this is true, then these people should ask God only one thing: that these friends did not jump off that roof when they had a bad mood or other problems.

Useless habit

In the end, the people who wondered why they still smoke, come to the conclusion that Smoking is just a habit. It is not, but if you do not consider all other reasons, this remains the only more or less reasonable. Only this explanation is also very illogical. Throughout our lives we acquire and get rid of many habits. Some have brought us pleasure. All the time we were told that Smoking is a bad habit and we still continue to believe that, but if it's a habit, it means that it is very difficult to get rid of. But in fact, the habit can be eliminated without any problems. When we drive a car, sit behind the wheel on the left, but moving to another country where the steering wheel is on the right, we are being retrained and successfully lead. So it's safe to say that getting rid of habits – it is very simple. In the course of life we many times acquire and get rid of habits. So, why do we find it difficult to get rid of the habit, which has a terrible taste and smell, which is killing us and costing us, vile and disgusting? A habit that we dream to get rid of if all, we need to stop doing this?

Addicts

Just Smoking is not a habit, but an addiction. Since smokers believe that Smoking is a habit, and I suppose that to get rid of it extremely difficult. But smokers - drug addicts. And the main reason why they can't quit Smoking is the myth that cigarette brings them pleasure and helps to feel better. And if they quit, it would bring a sacrifice and give up something very important in my life.

I can tell you two good news. When you realize that you are dependent on nicotine and find out what the true causes of your addiction, you can quit Smoking in no time. And in 3-4 weeks you will alreadyprosto v shoke ottogo, chto tak dolgo kurili i ne mogli izbavitsya ot etogo.

strahi pered budushem

mnogie kurilshiki boyatsya, chto im pridetsya provesti vsu svou posleduushuu zhizn v mukah i stradaniyah, v toske po sigarete vo vremena, kogda associiruushie faktory budut napominat o kurenii. oni schitaut, chto teper im vsu zhizn pridetsya zanimatsya samoobmanom, ugovarivaya sebya, chto oni vovse ne hotyat kurit. net, eto ne tak. sleduet pomnit staruu pogovorku: optimist vidit na polovinu polnuu butylku, a pessimist – na polovinu pustuu. esli vy zabudete obo vseh teh faktorah, kotorye napominaut vam o sigarete, esli dlya vas v dannom sluchae budet polnaya butylka, to vy pojmete, chto dlya vas net nikakoj nuzhdy v kurenii. chto vse eto vsego lish vash nastroj i otnoshenie k delu. i, navernoe, eto odin iz samyh vazhnyh aspektov v reshenii brosit kurit.

medlennaya smert

za sebya mogu skazat, ya kuril 33 goda, potomu chto schital, chto sigarety pomogaut mne chuvstvovat sebya uverennej i izbavlyatsya ot stressov. no ya znal, chto sigarety medlenno menya ubivaut. pochemu zhe togda ya ne shodil k vrachu i ne sprosil u nego sredstvo, kotoroe pomoglo by mne chuvstvovat sebya dejstvitelno uverennej? mozhet, ya ne poshel k vrachu tolko potomu, chto prekrasno znal, chto on mog mne posovetovat takoe sredstvo, kotoroe by s legkostu zamenilo by mne sigarety. no imenno etogo ya i boyalsya, i vsegda ubezhdal sebya, chto prichina imenno v tom, chto kurenie pomogaet mne byt bolee uverennym v sebe.

perejti k oglavleniu

sleduushaya glava